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Who Are You Attracting/Excluding

I always really get into the worship music at my church, but, yesterday I was caught up in an uncontrollable rejoice during this time. A guest visit by the University of Central Oklahoma’s Ebony Gospel Choir rocked my world, and my church.

It was great to see this predominantly white group of people crying out to God to the worship styling of a different culture. As I looked around I saw more minorities in the crowd than usually attend this church. My wife, noticing the same thing, commented on how nice it was to have a more diverse crowd this weekend. We also discussed how though many of the visitors had church homes and were here to support friends or family who were performing, surely there were some visitors with no church home at all. How can we attract those mentioned with no church homes for future visits and to join our church family. It’s strange how we can grow up in the same town, play on the same teams, go to the same schools, and worship the same God and exclude other races and cultures while we do it.
This experience made me really have to start thinking. Why is it that there are so few minorities in my church? I seriously doubt that someone decided to exclude minorities in our church. As I pondered this, I was reminded of a phenomenon described by John C. Maxwell in his book The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership. The Law of Magnetism as described in this book states that “like attracts like” or that people attract others like themselves. Our church is great at reaching 20-40 year old white couples with young children. This is true primarily because that’s the original group that started the church. They attracted others like them, and so begins the snowball effect.
The Law of Magnetism is evident all around us in society today and mostly in our churches.
Chances are that whatever organization you’re leading (it’s not just churches), there are people being missed by your business or ministry.
So, if this just happens naturally by the Law of Magnetism, how do we combat it? We use this very same phenomenon to our advantage. Maybe for you it’s as simple as including a more diverse variety of music on the play list coming over the speakers of your business. For some of you it may be offering different styles or slogans to the apparel you sell. For our church, maybe it’s adding a little more “soul” to our worship experience or more visits from that UCO Ebony Gospel Choir.
The point is that if the mission of your organization is to reach as many people as possible, you’ve got to ask what things you can do to become more “like” the people you’ve been missing.
JC

Break Your Children

I plan to break my children this week.

Here’s what I mean. When I was young, my mother would make some HUGE meals. Not for us. She was a single mom with 4 kids to raise. She couldn’t afford to feed us steak and potato meals all the time. However, any time a windfall of money (equal to an hour of overtime pay) would come her way, she’d splurge on a HUGE meal. This meal wasn’t for our family though.
My mom would cook this meal with meat, potatoes, veggies, bread, and desert. The cool thing is what we would do with that meal. After it was finished, it would be served up on paper plates wrapped in foil to make as many meals as possible, then, we would drive around the city and find someone who seemed in need of a meal who we could give it to. As I grew older I would sometimes get out and give the meals to people, but my fondest memory is of sitting in the car and watching through the window as my mother would approach a stranger with what could possibly have been their first warm meal in days. I was so proud of my mom. Even though there were times I’m sure she wondered how she would provide for her kids, she found ways to give to so many others.
When times came that I was unable to wear the same shoes as the other kids, or wear the name brand jeans, or get a video game system (the original Nintendo), I understood how fortunate I was rather than focusing on what we lacked.
She “broke” me. Whenever I see someone in need, my heart breaks all over again. She created kids who love to give. Kids who love to help others. Kids who are grateful for everything they have. She created kids whose greatest desire is to help others. I now will begin to “break” my kids and pray that they will gain some of those same attributes from the experience.
Thanks Mom. Thanks for “breaking” me. You’re my hero and I love you.
JC

A Site With A Beat

Does your website have music on it? If so, please pay attention.

We’ve all clicked on a link to a site and music began to blare through our computer’s speakers. What was your reaction? Chances are, it was the same as mine usually is. After flinching from the startling surprise, I mute the music as fast as I can, then look around to see who else around me I disrupted. Some times I don’t mind the music, but for the majority of sites with a beat, it’s just a nuisance.
The first thing you should be sure of when designing your site is that everything there serves some sort of purpose. What purpose does your music serve? If your site is for your band, music store, or some other thing like that, then the music probably needs to be there so that your potential customers can get a small taste of what you’re selling. If your site is a MySpace or FaceBook page, that page is there to tell about you and what you like, so, that shows surfers what music you like.
I would encourage anyone with a website to consider these things about their site.
  • What type of site is it? This is important whether a personal site, business site, non-profit organization, church, or whatever it may be.

Categories: Marketing

Creative Consequences

When it comes to kids and discipline, many of us find ourselves resorting to the trusty ol’ time out, spanking, or taking away of privileges. Next time your kid is banned from video games or their bicycle for a week, ask them afterward to explain in detail why that privilege was taken away in the first place. If the offense called for a spanking, wait an hour or two after the punishment and ask that same question. Rarely will the kid completely recall all the reasons for that punishment. Sometimes they will put some of the pieces together. Most of the time, to the parent’s frustration, the kid will miss most of “the point”.

I know, I know. That’s frustrating, but, what are parents to do? Well, we constantly encourage our children to “stop and think” before acting. Why don’t we do the same? Be Creative. Find a consequence that matches the offense directly. That way your kid CAN’T forget.
Here’s some Ideas.
Offense: Teenager that slams his bedroom door.
Consequence: Take his bedroom door away. This can be taken off easily in about 30 seconds. Your teenager loses the privilege of that added privacy. They can trek to the bathroom to change clothes and stuff. It won’t kill them, but they’ll think about not slamming that door next time.
Offense: Daughter keeps forgetting to flush the toilet after using it.
Consequence: For 2 days, nobody in your family is allowed to flush after a trip to the restroom. Instead, your daughter must enter after each deposit to flush everyone elses stuff. Gross huh. But hey, that’s what she expects mom to do. I bet she flushes from now on.
Offense: Kids are running through the house like its home of track and field competition.
Consequence: They must be on their knees when moving through the house for one day. They’ll think this one’s fun at first, but trust me. By the end of a full day of this, they’ll be happy to walk around tomorrow.
O.K. I helped you get started but now it’s up to you. Stop and take some time before just defaulting to the same ol’ consequence that didn’t work last time. Then, go. Be creative.
Be sure to comment and share your ideas.
JC

The Hookup

We’ve all seen them. We’ve all used them. I’m talking about those little cards or keychain tags that businesses punch a hole in when we make a purchase. I have one that I keep in my car’s console for the coffee shop across town. Many times I’ve made that drive because I was only x number of cups away from a free latte, even though I passed 4 other coffee shops with free wifi on the way there. Then there’s the oil change place around the corner that gets me excited about a 3,000 mile oil change. I no longer push it to 5 or 6 thousand miles because I know that would delay the time between now and my free oil change that they are “giving” me.

Whether you’re leading a ministry, a retail business, or service business, you should be giving your customers or attenders a reason not only to return to you rather than your competition but to return sooner rather than later. Maybe, “since you’ve purchased this item, you receive $10 off a second for a friend or family member if you order this month”.
One more note. The oil change place I mentioned, they have this down to an art. Sometimes, when the manager is the one checking me out after my service, he’ll give my keychain tag an extra hole punch… and make sure to tell me he’s doing it (in a nonchalant way). Even though I’m sure that nearly every repeat customer receives this same advantage, I can’t help but to feel some what special or like a bit of an insider. The manager likes me so much he’s giving me “the hookup”.
Find a reason for people to return often. Then take the next step and give them “the hookup”.
JC
Categories: Marketing

Integrity or Technicality

In tough economic times, it’s challenging but evermore important that business leaders don’t sacrifice integrity on the alter of business success. One way many leaders do this is by using technicalities to justify their actions. I know many of you have seen this in the past and may be witness to it now. Here’s one instance I recently experienced.

Christmas… Without all the Crap

My wife (Pepper) and I were with a group of friends recently when I said “I hate Christmas”. Well, I know that’s what I said but not actually quite what I meant. So, In the following paragraphs I’ll try to clarify my feelings on this subject.

I’ll first off mention that this conversation was taking place 1 week before the Thanksgiving holiday. Boy I LOVE Thanksgiving! Not just because of a four-day weekend, football, or event the excuse to overeat. Thanksgiving to me, is like Christmas… without all the crap. Think about it. Even the annual cartoons on television will focus on being thankful and surrounded with those you love. Even giving. We share a meal together (which is a special thing). Many cultures would consider the sharing of a meal as the most intimate and precious thing people can do together. It represents the sharing of that which sustains life.

What Do Frogs Write On?

Want to be the coolest parent on the block? I think every parent has wanted that at some time or another. Try these 3 easy steps…

  1. Check out this link ( http://kids.yahoo.com/jokes ) or search the term “jokes for kids” on your favorite search engine.
  2. Make a short list of a few silly jokes that your kids will think are great and keep it handy.
  3. Break out a random joke from the list when your kid has friends over so they can all hear it and laugh together. Or, use it to put a smile on your own kids face by whispering it to them during one of those sad or grumpy times.
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